Beware coming on hard when a light touch will serve the purpose just as well. In this somewhat tricky, sensitive environment, you should probably be conscious of the fact that your idea of “gentle approach” could well be another person’s idea of a nuclear missile launch, and perhaps dial it back even further than you’d originally intended.
Let others do what they’re going to do and say what they’re going to say without yielding to the urge to weigh in, refute, correct, intervene, redirect, or play favorites. If you follow these easy steps for staying out of it, they’ll likely exhaust themselves before you’re obliged to change anything – or (yay!) accommodate anyone.
Those around you are apt to be quite definitive about stating their demands or expectations, even though you evinced no particular desire to hear them. Your best tactic for dealing with them? Say, “Got it, we’ll definitely figure out how to make that happen,” and then go about your way, doing whatever it is that you’d planned from the outset.
For the next couple of days, you’ll likely get more mileage from exercising benign neglect than you will from pressing your case or pushing the issues. So even if you feel that you have already demonstrated the patience of Saint Augustine and the stamina of Haile Gebrselassie on this one, try to hang on just a little bit longer.